I am continuing to post just in case anyone needs to read this sort of thing.
Life continues to be drama free despite the fact that change is happening whether we wanted it to or not. As one of my favorite posters said (paraphrased) The drama llama has left the room. And there is so much more energy for what’s really important, necessary, and life enhancing.
That’s not to say that there aren’t challenges. I will likely be moving on from the little apartment. Certain industries and areas are going to provide more opportunities than the one the little apartment is in. It’s not the timing we planned. We had planned for when F finished his degree in about a year. And I had paid down more divorce debt. But it’s the timing that is.
This flex is possible tho because I no longer have infidelity taking up all the energy in the room. I wish I had the energy back I expended on the pick me dance 💃 and trying to herd felines (change exwh in any way). I could have had a doctorate for all of the time and energy I put into trying to fix a situation apparently other people saw was clearly broken.
A friend said to me this past weekend, "well you had to know he was" (followed by a spot on descriptor of who he was…). Well, as a matter of fact, "Joe", no. No I obviously didn’t. This is the first time you said this to me. I gave the benefit of the doubt. And believed the excuses. I did not believe what I clearly saw.
I was not the first person I saw exwh lie to, and I would bet I was not the last person he lied to and betrayed either….I can not recall a single time when exwh admitted fault when something went bad. But I was obviously a slow learner, "Joe".
Let’s all (F was with us as was "Joe’s" wife) have another coffee and toast to the fact that we all seemed to have gotten the lesson in our cumulative well over 250 years on this planet and stopped marrying or dating active cheaters, people who don’t want to be with us or people who are financially tanking us. Good for us!
I am going to get boxes and box tape and call moving companies to get quotes….
Wishing everyone on this site much healing and peace.
